My wife and I, from the very beginning of our close relationship, we came to agree on one key point that is the base of our relationship and that is “love is not granted but rented, and the rent is due everyday.” Whatever type of relationship you share with someone, it shouldn’t be considered granted, the split can happen anytime if you do not consider watching out. On this issue, I will focus on your relationship with your significant other. So how close are you from breaking up with him/her?
My believe again, is that you can split anytime soon. The essence of relationship, one of it’s pillar, is communication. When you are in a relationship, you expect to be communicating with the person, sharing your emotions, your beliefs, your vision, and all that do not have to be the same (but that is another subject I will cover later in the future). One of the reason people fail to run a lasting relationship with their significant other is because they stop doing what led us them to be together. The man who was charming at the beginning and was giving lot of attention, bringing gifts, flowers, and calling all the time to say “I Love You”, that same man once he got the heart of the love one stop doing all those little things. The same goes to the other partner. The woman who use to take good care of herself, watching her weight, cooking nice diner, getting interested in the man career in supporting him, she stops doing it once the heart is won. In that case how would you then expect the love to remain at the same level.
Now what about being to demanding? This is what I call the “Package Deal”. Now that they are with the partner you always wanted people tend to start being too demanding. Why can’t you do this? Why can’t you do that? Why aren’t you like this or like him/her… Well, we need to understand that negative criticism is nothing else that a source of separation. When you accepted to be together with someone, you accepted the person package which everything that you see and you know about the person by the time you accept to be together. If when you get together I am fat, do not come 2 months later and urge me to be as slim as Tyra Banks. But do not get me wrong here. The notion of package doesn’t mean nothing everything should always remain the same. What it means is that you can and should help your partner become a better person and achieve higher points but first it’s not a must, and second ut must be something not that you want but that both of you want especially the partner in question, in order to be happier and to have a stronger love.